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Angry responses are not necessarily unhealthy. Anger can be healthy if it is both expressed and addressed properly. Feeling angry in warranted occasions is very healthy but it must be met with an appropriate response. Flying into a rage, or being physically abusive is not a normal reaction to anger and should be dealt with before anyone gets hurt.

Relaxation is a great way to take a step back, relax and reassess your situation. When you feel like you are about to react to a negative situation, take a deep breath and count to ten, exhaling as you go. Repeat as necessary until you feel you have regained control of your emotions. Meditate and concentrate on relaxing imagery, relax your muscles as well as your mind.

ü       Take a hike. Physical activity can help alleviate physical symptoms of being angry. It can also be a great emotional outlet.  Play a round of sports, jog around the track or take a long walk in the park. If you prefer, scrub your kitchen or bathroom floor. Vigorous and repetitive physical activity can be very relaxing and meditative.

ü       Don’t stew in your anger; sulking and being moody for a prolonged period of time is not going to solve your problems. It is just prolonging your angry emotions. Learn to let your anger be known objectively. Do not retaliate or be verbally or physically abusive. Instead, try to talk and explain why you fell angry. Try to use sentences which start with “I”, minimizing the occasion to pass judgment or hurt to others. Keep a clear head, think before you say anything, and try to focus on the task at hand, which is getting your anger known and solve the immediate problem.

ü       Express your anger safely; never take it out on anything or any one. Physical aggression will only make matters worse and alienate the people you love. Try to be logical; do not have unrealistic expectations of others. Try to work out your problem with the person who provoked you, they may never have intended to make you angry. Working with the person will also show that you are able to rise above your problems and move on. Never hold grudges against anybody.

ü       Let go of your anger. Harboring negative emotions would only hinder you from moving forward and living the rest of your life stress free. Those who choose to harbor ill emotions never mature emotionally, and they also never grow as persons.

ü       Letting go anger, hatred, and hostility means completely discarding all your negative emotions. These would include thoughts, opinions that you may have and spiteful judgment of the person who is the focus of your anger. Learn to forgive the other person completely. This would take time, and you should not expect to be able to do this before you are able to let go of all your negative feelings.

Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to accomplish forgiveness. This may be the bravest and most noble accomplishment you will ever do in your life. It will also clear the negativity and hostility in your life, paving the way for a brighter and calmer future. GP

There are very big differences between anger management and passive aggressive behavior. A person responding to a situation using stealth and manipulation is a passive aggressive person, while a person who truly wants to find a solution for the source of conflict is practicing anger management. 

Anger management aims to reduce the feelings of anger in a person, and control the triggers of these angry emotions before the feelings occur. It is not an effective cure for eliminating anger, but it is as indispensable tool for controlling yourself.

People in anger management classes know that anger itself is not the problem; it is how the problem is handled that makes the situation precarious. While it is alright to feel angry, some people are not comfortable with showing feelings of anger. They have been brought up in homes that do not condone showing negative expressions or may have had bad experiences with anger, including growing up in abusive homes. They are easily intimidated by any form of anger, whether appropriate or not.

The person always has two choices for handling anger. The healthy way is to express your anger calmly while maintaining control of your emotions. Others may tend to suppress their anger because they feel it is wrong to express anger. This type of behavior can lead to passive aggressiveness that is just as harmful or even worse, than uncontrolled anger.

Passive aggressive people tend to manipulate people through devious ways which can be hard to prove when confronted. They lie, cheat and undermine other people just to exact their revenge on others; these people are not far from being pathological liars. Most passive aggressive people are not aware of their behavior, not even if you confront them as they would vehemently deny any aggressive wrong doing.

The passive aggressive person is the worst kind of behavior in existence. They are violent in words and deeds and often try to pass the fault on to others. They believe they are above any wrongdoing and can never be at fault for anything. They also will make other people responsible for their own behavior.

They are not in control of their own anger and are capable of doing anything. On the outside they may appear calm but inside they are enraged and boiling with schemes and manipulative ideas. They may speak with a soft tone of voice but the words they choose to say are aimed to attack emotionally and impose fear on their opponent. They are masters in stealth and surprise attacks, and they will fool you into a false sense of security with the way they talk, their outward appearance, and their gestures.

They are the hardest kind of people to deal with, as they lie and incessantly and are manipulative. The worse kinds are social psychos, and they seldom get caught. No one can really force them to change, they can only do so if they are aware of what they are doing and have a genuine want to change. If they are forced to attend anger management classes, they will pretend to go along but will always lie and their mastery of appearance will fool anyone to thinking they are changed people.