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Angry responses are not necessarily unhealthy. Anger can be healthy if it is both expressed and addressed properly. Feeling angry in warranted occasions is very healthy but it must be met with an appropriate response. Flying into a rage, or being physically abusive is not a normal reaction to anger and should be dealt with before anyone gets hurt.

Relaxation is a great way to take a step back, relax and reassess your situation. When you feel like you are about to react to a negative situation, take a deep breath and count to ten, exhaling as you go. Repeat as necessary until you feel you have regained control of your emotions. Meditate and concentrate on relaxing imagery, relax your muscles as well as your mind.

ü       Take a hike. Physical activity can help alleviate physical symptoms of being angry. It can also be a great emotional outlet.  Play a round of sports, jog around the track or take a long walk in the park. If you prefer, scrub your kitchen or bathroom floor. Vigorous and repetitive physical activity can be very relaxing and meditative.

ü       Don’t stew in your anger; sulking and being moody for a prolonged period of time is not going to solve your problems. It is just prolonging your angry emotions. Learn to let your anger be known objectively. Do not retaliate or be verbally or physically abusive. Instead, try to talk and explain why you fell angry. Try to use sentences which start with “I”, minimizing the occasion to pass judgment or hurt to others. Keep a clear head, think before you say anything, and try to focus on the task at hand, which is getting your anger known and solve the immediate problem.

ü       Express your anger safely; never take it out on anything or any one. Physical aggression will only make matters worse and alienate the people you love. Try to be logical; do not have unrealistic expectations of others. Try to work out your problem with the person who provoked you, they may never have intended to make you angry. Working with the person will also show that you are able to rise above your problems and move on. Never hold grudges against anybody.

ü       Let go of your anger. Harboring negative emotions would only hinder you from moving forward and living the rest of your life stress free. Those who choose to harbor ill emotions never mature emotionally, and they also never grow as persons.

ü       Letting go anger, hatred, and hostility means completely discarding all your negative emotions. These would include thoughts, opinions that you may have and spiteful judgment of the person who is the focus of your anger. Learn to forgive the other person completely. This would take time, and you should not expect to be able to do this before you are able to let go of all your negative feelings.

Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to accomplish forgiveness. This may be the bravest and most noble accomplishment you will ever do in your life. It will also clear the negativity and hostility in your life, paving the way for a brighter and calmer future. GP